Iowa Lady Loves the Ocean

7 Important Logics:

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Just Maybe ...

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Your Character

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Natural Highs :

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Famous Words

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Forgiveness ......

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Learn ....

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Persevere ....

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There are Always ...

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Every Morning ...

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20 years from Now ... Will you?

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People ....

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Beauty Tips .....

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Don't Ever ....

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Please Remember ....

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Be Thankful ....

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So Live ....

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Love Me ...

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My Smile ...

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End of the Day ....

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10 Ways to Love .....

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Live ... Laugh ... Love ....

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Positive

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Your Life Story ....

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Enjoy Life ...

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Calm

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Smile, Laugh, Forgive, Believe & Love

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Courage ...

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Life ...

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Life ...

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Change .....

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Share ....

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A Plan ....

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Turn the Page ....

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Nobody

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Stay Positive ...

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Your Path

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Now ...

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Merry Christmas

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I truly love this picture. Anyone who knows me knows I love books.

Merry Christmas to all. And a very Happy Healthy New Year.

Peace, Love, and Light

Sheri

Happy Holidays

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Christmas Eve is upon us. I am going to enjoy the quiet night. Hoping for a little snow to make it a white Christmas. In Iowa you just never know. If I moved to the beach I would miss the snow. But not after the Holidays.

I also can't help but think how nice it would be just to be near the Ocean right now. It is so relaxing and rejuvenating to me.

I love the snowman and he loves the beach .... no matter what.

Happy Holidays
Love, Peace, Joy, and Light
SHERI

Cherish Your Life

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Live Life now... Make every Moment Count.

Live, Laugh Love.

Smile.

Live it Up ....

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LIVE YOUR LIFE NOW!!!!

LIfe is Meant to be lived ...

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Life is meant to be lived. So go out and do it. Don't save those special things for tomorrow. Tomorrow may never come. Live fully and completely each and every day. Live with Joy, intention, Spirit, Love, Kindness, Hope, and NO Regrets. Say it believe it do it!!!

Live your Life Fully .... Love Completely .. Laugh Honestly

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Live, Love, Laugh, everyday of your Life. You never know when it maybe your last. And always tell those you love how you feel. Why not. Share your heart. Give it simply. Truly, and deeply. Love is meant to be shared.

I love You!!!!

Dreams ....

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Mahatma Gandhi Quote

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Hope

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I love this Quote. I thought Christopher Reeve was a Strong Brave man. I admired him a lot. He took his trials and paved a road for a better life for others.

RIP Christopher.

Your Past...

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It's how you learn. Mistakes are lessons. We all make them. And it is in this we grow. Have no regrets. Live life to the fullest. Learn your lessons. Love your Life!

Love Yourself

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I love to Laugh

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I ...

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SHE ....

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Please ...

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Choices ...

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Life Is ....

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It's Your Life Live It!!!

Self Love

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You are Important.

Sometimes ...

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Internet Addiction

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This looks exactly like two of my Cats. It's too funny. So I thought I would share this funny. It makes me laugh.

Dream ...

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Be ...

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Important Stuff

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Seriously ...

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Once in A Lifetime

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Life's A Dance

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Cry ...

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Dance in the Rain ... live your Life

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Happy Thanksgiving

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Let your cup run over ...

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Life ...

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Me ....

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10 ways to Love

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A Quote

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Hey You .....

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Tuesday

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As we have moved into the month of November I am feeling so many different feelings. First coming into the Holidays. Remorse for my parents not being here. I miss them dearly every day but Holidays are so empty without them. I always take time to think back about family holiday time and smile and cry.

From the picture above you can see I am missing my BFF and the beach. I really wish we could go to our favorite spot this time of year just once. Visit when there is less hussle and bussle. Less People. Maybe someday. I really do hope to someday be living there. So when I need my solitude I can walk to the beach and walk and walk and collect my thoughts. Regenerate. I always feel so good and relaxed at the beach. Like I belong there. I don't feel like I belong here at all. Ever. Not even when I am spending time with sister and her family. There is always that sense something is missing. But truthfully I think I have always felt like I didn't belong anywhere. Growing up, in my marriage, and even now. I don't feel that at the beach. Maybe that is why I crave it so much. I need to get past my fears and just move.

It's cold here in Iowa this morning. No snow just brisk cold air. No sun yet. It's early. I am just sitting here with my coffee reflecting. Feeling all kinds of emotions. I think i am going to throw on a jacket and take a short walk. Walks sooth my soul. Even when not at the beach.

Happy Tuesday!!!

Everything ....

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Monday

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Shake it off, dust it down, if you have the Monday heavy's look at it the bright way, the right way, its time to get your self in gear, make space to think about you whether you are working or at home, there is space, space in your head and in your life for you, no children for a while, no partners, no friends demanding on you, the demands are clearly still their but recognise the difference, recognise that its more than likely that the emotionally tied demand is absent for a while, what ever you are doing, look at the difference that a weekday makes and make it count, treasure the mundane for it will give you a kind of restful peace, honour the pressure of work for there is a flip side to that too, perhaps it invigorates another part of you, how do you see it ?

The Knots Prayer

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Words of Wisdom

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Good Times

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This reminds me of a gathering for the weekend. With my sister, my niece, and my best friend. Sharing laughter, good food, good times, and just being in the moment. Cuddling up to the fireplace hot cocoa good conversation. I love this picture.

What does it make you think of?

It has been a Long time

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I really need to come back here and get back on track. I enjoy having my blog. Even if I just use it for posting inspirational photos, quotes, and other things of that nature. I like to share things that inspire me. This is the perfect place if anyone ever actually comes here. And gets even some little thing from the words I put here to share. If you do stop by please leave a comment or add me or something. I like when others share of themselves. And I hope to share more of myself in the coming months. Blogging has always been therapy for me. What works for you?

I love this picture above. The beauty. The garden I wish I had. The stone steps. It's awesome.

Have a great Friday and a enjoy your weekend to the fullest.

Thank You !!

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You Can Do it

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Vanilla Bean: Honey's baby birds!

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Vanilla Bean: Honey's baby birds!: "Check out what grandma Honey has going on at her house!!! Don't see anything quite yet? How about now!! What cutie pie little babies..."

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To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose feelings is to risk revealing your true self.

To place you ideas, your dreams, before a crowd

...Is to risk rejection.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk disappointment.

To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard

In life is to risk nothing.

Those who risk nothing, do nothing, have nothing,

And become nothing.

They may avoid present suffering and sorrow, but they

Will not learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live.

Chained by their fear, they are slaves who have forfeited

Their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

The pessimist complains about the wind;

The optimist expects it to change;

And the realist adjusts the sails.

~ William Arthur Ward ~

Is fear preventing you from taking a necessary risk today?

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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Set your standards high,

You deserve the best.

Try for what you want,

And never settle for less.

Believe in yourself,

No matter what you choose

Keep a winning attitude,

And you can never lose.

Think about your destination,

But don’t worry if you stray.

Because the most important thing,

Is what you’ve learned along the way.

Take all that you’ve become,

To be all that you can be

Soar above the clouds,

And let your dreams set you free.

~ Author Unknown ~

50 Things that Make Me Happy

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50 Things that Make Me Happy

1. My son

2. My family

3. My friends

4. My cats

5. My house

6. Spending time with my BFF

7. Vacations with my BFF

8. Florida

9. Road trips

10. My job

11. Having money in my savings account

12. Having all the bills paid on time

13. Losing weight

14. Good Reports from the doctor

15. Laughing

16. Going to the Movies with sis and niece

17. Music

18. Books

19. Magazines

20. bookstores

21. Coffee shops

22. Reading

23. hugs

24. The Ocean

25. A gentle rain

26. Holding hands

27. Kissing

28. Cuddling

29. Sharing dessert

30. Angels

31. A good nights sleep

32. Smiles

33. Time on the beach

34. Collecting Seashells

35. Olive Garden Lunchs

36. Being around children

37. Hayley

38. Long Walks with my Ipod

39. Being in Love

40. Hearing "I love You".

41. Dave

42. coffee ice cream

43. getting a compliment

44. Hugo

45. Fall days

46. Shopping

47. Sleeping late

48. margaritas

49. warm chocolate chip cookies

50. Feeling loved

Quotes to be Shared

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Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.
It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love you back! Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Don’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile. There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Always put yourself in others’ shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Life

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This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy.” ~ ~ Susan Polis •♥•

Life

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PUSH

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When everything seems to go wrong, just push.
When the job gets you down, just push.
When people don’t react the way you think they should, push!
When your money looks funny and the bills are due, just push.
When you want to tell them off for whatever the reason, just push.
When you ask the question, when is my ship coming in? Just push.
When people just don’t understand you, just push.
Let me tell you what Push stands for ….

Pray
Until
Something
Happens

A Friend

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(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in "you"
(C)alls you just to say "HI"
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)ust "be" with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffer support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains thing you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

A Season, A Reason, A Lifetime

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When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong -doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out

and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life

PRAYER:
May today there be peace within you.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.
May you be content knowing that you are a child of God.
Let His presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, and to bask in the sun.
It is there for each and every one of you.

Just Be Yourself

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Be strong enough to face the world each day.

Be weak enough to know you cannot do everything.

Be generous to those who need your help.

Be frugal with what you need yourself.

Be wise enough to know that you do not know everything.

Be foolish enough to believe in miracles.

Be willing to share your joys.

Be willing to share the sorrows of others.

Be a leader when you see a path others have missed.

Be a follower when you are shrouded in the midst of uncertainty.

Be the first to congratulate an opponent who succeeds.

Be the last to criticize a colleague who fails.

Be sure where your next step will fall, so that you will not stumble.

Be sure of your final destination, in case you are going the wrong way.

Be loving to those who love you.

Be loving to those who do not love you, and they may change.
Above all, be yourself ..
Lovely Thoughts for Lovely People Just Like You

Top 10 Ways to Raise Your Consciousness

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Top 10 Ways To Raise Your Consciousness

1. Forgive yourself and others: Life is too short to hold on to regrets, grudges, miscommunications, or disappointments. Free yourself by forgiving and letting go of any negative energy you’re holding on to about yourself or others. The process of forgiving yourself and others will result in your feeling light and free; it will raise your vibration.

2. Practise gratitude and appreciation: Whatever you focus on grows. So, when you focus on every thing in your life you feel grateful for all and the wonderful people you appreciate, the universe hands you more to feel grateful about.

3. Live each day as though it were your last: Then you will be living in a state of light, love and unconditional contribution.What would you say to the people you care about?

4. Meditate or pray: You open up a direct link between yourself and the spiritual realm when you meditate or pray. You will come closer to your creator energy, raise your vibration experience, peace, clarity, joy and connection, as well as a perfectly balanced state between your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual realms.

5. Suspend judgment: One judges another to feel less guilty about one’s own misgivings. Judgment energy is dense, dark and heavy. On the other hand, unconditional acceptance is light, free and accepting. Let go of judging and criticising yourself and others. Everyone is on a different path and some appear to be farther ahead on their path than others. Neither path is better nor worse than another.Raise your consciousness to one of acceptance.

6. View every experience as a gift: If you look back at occurrences in your life, you can easily see how even the worst situations you experienced in your life ended up teaching you invaluable lessons and therefore resulted in putting you in perfect place for your continuing development. When you view every experience — the good, the bad, and the ugly — as a gift, life flows more like a gentle, inspiring breeze.

7. Stay consciously aware of all your thoughts and feelings: It is easy to fall into negative patterns of complaining and feeling like a victim of society and your life. When you catch yourself in the negative zone, don’t feel badly about it and beat yourself up. Simply choose to switch your consciousness to one of gratitude and positive thinking.

8. Treat your physical body as your temple: Your body is the only vehicle you’ve been given for this ride called life. The better you care for your body by eating a healthy, balanced diet, and by implementing a regular exercise routine, and by giving your body the rest it requires, the more you will experience increased energy, vitality, joy and freedom.

9. View the world through the eyes of a child: Children are enthralled by the process of observing and experiencing the wonder and beauty in every single thing.They can’t get enough. Look at every tree, sunset, cloud and human being as a child would and you’ll be in a constant state of wonder, joy, surprise, acceptance and enlightenment.

10. Give love, love, love from your heart: It’s all about love. Love is the highest vibration. Allow yourself to receive love unconditionally from others. Give love from your heart unconditionally to yourself and others and you will experience the highest state of consciousness possible.

I posted this because I have always Believed It: Feathers from Heaven

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In November of 2000, my brother was diagnosed with lung cancer in the final stages. My oldest sister, took on the responsibility of his care. Each weekend I would drive the 300 miles to give her a break by going to the grocery store and pharmacy and helped to take care of our brother.

One weekend, my sister in law told us that she would be fine with our brother for a few hours and for the three of us girls to go spend some time with each other.
We went to lunch and then to the store. On the way back to my brothers house, I asked my sisters to make a promise to me that which ever of us passed first, we would let the others know by giving us a sign. They agreed and we discussed what the "sign" should be.

The oldest, said how about turning on the lights but the middle sister said that would scare her. We laughed and finally decided on a white feather. It had to be some place that you would not expect to see it.

We arrived back at my brothers home, unloaded the car and settled down to listen to some music. I was sitting next to my brothers hospital bed on one side and my sister in law was on the other side, my two sisters were on the sofa talking to each other quietly.

All of a sudden out of the corner of my eye I see a WHITE feather floating from the ceiling. I thought that I was so stressed out that I was seeing things and I wanted desperately for my two sisters to quit talking and look my way so I could see if they saw it too! Keep in mind that my sister in law was not in the car with us so she did not know of our conversation. My sister in law must have seen the look on my face and she said "How odd, I wonder where that white feather came from"

Immediately, both my sisters stopped talking and started crying! I was too! We all hugged one another then told our sister in law what we had discussed and that we all knew that it was our mother sending us the sign, letting us know that she was with us.

20 Ways to Simplify your Life

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20 Ways to Simplify Your Life

1 Avoid amassing clothes. Give your credit card a break. Women tend to wear only 20 per cent of their wardrobe 80 per cent of the time. If you find an item that really suits you and makes you feel good whenever you wear it, go back to the shop and buy it again in another colour.

2 Only ever bake one cake. If you must bake a cake for your child’s birthday, just use one tried-and-tested recipe. Remember, most children probably prefer a made-to-order novelty cake.

3 Don’t “work through it” when you’re ill. Just because you are still standing doesn’t mean you should force yourself to go into the office. Take a day off and switch off the BlackBerry. You’ll get over it quicker and you won’t infect your colleagues.

4 Stop looking at models. Studies show an immediate depressive response in women who have looked at models in fashion magazines. After just three minutes, all women felt a drop in their self-esteem and felt less attractive, regardless of their own height, age, shape or size.

5 Buy clothes for the size you are. Don’t buy clothes that are slightly too small in the mistaken belief that it will spur you to lose weight. There’s no faster track to a day-long grump than a waistband that digs in, a zip that keeps creeping down and sleeves so tight that you can’t reach for the Tim Tams.

6 Cull after-school activities.There’s lots of evidence to show that over-scheduled children become burnt-out teens who are less able to amuse themselves. My stress levels halved when I dropped any after-school commitments that involved driving.

7 Pep up your child’s lunchbox by dropping into a foodhall. Drop into a David Jones food hall or a supermarket on the way home from work rather than spending hours marinating chicken. Choose a wrap, fruit salad or pasta for your kid’s lunch the next day.

8 Get out of the kitchen. If you catch yourself creating a smiley face on top of a cottage pie with carrots and peas, pour a glass of wine and leave the kitchen immediately.

9 Stop tidying your house. Don’t tidy the house just because the cleaner is coming. Cleaners can pick up empty mugs – and you’re paying them to do this.

10 Cut down your to-do list. Restrict your daily to-do list to three tasks only. Don’t try to tackle your entire mental “master’’ list. Pick three things that are achievable in a day, including one easy one that you can cross off straight away.

11 Get everything you can delivered. Order in everything – food, clothes, toys, dvds, even haircuts (mobile hairdressers will be a lot more tolerant of your children’s nits).

12 Arrange regular breaks from the school run. Escape the pressure of the ticking clock and the fact that you’ve only got mascara on one eye. Organise swaps with neighbours, find a bus route or rope in your husband or mother.

13 Make it a rule not to look in the mirror. Never glance in a mirror when you’re out unless you have a specific reason to suspect you have something on your nose.

14 Stop cleaning your child’s room. Stop cleaning the kids’ rooms as soon as they turn eight. Make them tidy their own rooms from time to time. But make it easy – no bedroom should be without under-bed storage drawers.

15 Don’t ignore tiredness. Take a rest. Tiredness is not something that should be dismissed as part of a busy life. Lack of energy is one of the symptoms of depression. Seek help before you crash.

16 Stop waxing all year round. It takes valuable minutes from your day, costs an (under)arm – and a leg – and it hurts. Save it for holidays and dates.

17 Don’t plod on with a book. Don’t persevere with a book just because it’s on the Booker shortlist or it’s your book club choice. If your mind constantly wanders off the page, give up. Reading should be a pleasurable escape route. It’s okay to pick up Agatha Christie instead. (Apply the same approach to TV and films.)

18 Examine your motivation before you step up your career. Take time to evaluate whether you really want that promotion at work, which will mean longer hours and more stress. Studies routinely find that, once we have our basics – a home, food and a livelihood – our happiness levels are not boosted by a higher income. In most developed countries, happiness levels have remained static over the past 50 years, even though we have more money and a lot more stuff.

19 Don’t worry yourself with the idea that everyone but you is having great sex. Who cares what anyone else is doing? While researching her book Sizzling Sex (JR Books), Dr Pam Spurr found that 90 per cent of us probably won’t try anything new sexually after our first anniversary. And, once past the two-year mark, you can forget it. Bear in mind that even Madonna lived for a time in a sexless marriage (to Guy Ritchie). Apparently they were both too tired – which surely lets the rest of us off the hook.

20 Choose an extra holiday over a new kitchen floor. Children couldn’t care less if the floor is vinyl or limestone, but memories of holidays will stay with you all for a lifetime.